Connections have been on my mind, especially when writing how heroine and hero (h/h) connect in romantic fiction.  My day job as a business relationship manager benefits from examining how we connect with others, as well.

I read two quotes about connection this week that resonated with me.  The first from a business article, “Connection…is a mindset and an energy exchange between people who are paying attention to each other. Connections motivate and influence us.”

It’s easy to see how this relates to a romance story–the energy exchange between h/h sparks the beginning of their relationship, and the forms it can take are myriad.  Often it is the touch of hands, maybe it is a particular smile.  My favorite quote about a special smile is “When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.”  I have to use that in my story.

The second reference to connections comes from Author Magazine :  “We would have done nearly anything for that project. These qualities naturally surfaced because, most importantly, we were connected; our actions were connected to and inspired by a great feeling.”

Again, this is to me what romance is about–a connection based on great feelings, working together tirelessly, and natural.

How do you know when you’ve connected with someone?  Inside you might feel a hormonal charge, a glow, a pause in conversation as  you smile at each other.  You feel stronger, more assured, having found a kindred spirit.

Identifying what connection feels like is a necessary first step.  Now my work is to write the interactions that draw my h/h together, connect them.  Dreamy.


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